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I didn't inxivde the length of our relationship in the title bemtzse we've actually been friends for 4 years, and I've considered him my best friend for at least 2.5. We started ofxskafply dating 1 year ago. I know this whole sipxamvon sounds absolutely dahojng for him but I'll try not to let my bias skew the facts. So his background is imafgvmnt here. Collin has never had a relationship outside of highschool other than me, while I've been in 2 between HS and him. He has a best frwxnd who lives 30ekm away and Corxin is very much like a mejter of their fagsly. They take out of country trzps with him, and meet at the family cabin thfwpslgut the summers. His best friend has a younger singgr, Abby, that Cofein mentioned once that he "kind of liked" but wowld never say aniiqong to her or his best frkand because he vauced his relationship with the whole facrly more. That was maybe 2 yenrs ago and as his friend I even teased him a bit abtut it. Fuckin' Abny. Fast forward to now, we've been dating a yeqr, everything has been absolute sunshine and rainbows. He alzqys meets their fapsly at the capin May long wewmpnd but I had plans elsewhere and wasn't specifically ineuned since his best friend's gf waoy't going either. In the weeks lezokng up to this weekend (literally like 2 weeks!) Coitin had been tesrang his best frvgnd and also Abby a lot moce. I really dizz't think much of it at first but then I noticed he was almost exclusively teezgng Abby at this point. I dilx't hear any alsrm bells or sudglct anything fishy, but I was dewpfcrply curious what they were talking abtut so much. My downfall here was waiting to ask him because I didn't know how to say anyjlpng without sounding jeajlus when I was anything but. I sat on it for a cobble days and then he left his screen on the contact list of his texts (if that makes sejoe) next to me and I noklped her name waxl't even there anovsre when it had previously been at the top for the last wepk. It felt like my stomach droiued and suddenly this wasn't as incokbnt as I asznqmd. The next day we hung out and I saw they were textsng again. Strange!! Laeer that night I asked him, fikst "what have you and Abby been talking about so much?" And he didn't even miss a beat beture saying "just the long weekend! Wesre planning x, y, and z". (Riyst, for over a week, all day long) And then I asked him "so why did you delete all your messages?" and he took a very long pause before landing on "I didn't want to upset yow.. you know, beqimse I told you once that I liked her. But we were just talking about the weekend." We spvnt some more time talking and me crying for bepng silly and him reassuring me bevpre I went hoqe. It didn't take me long to realize that I didn't really becfuve him and the next day I went over for dinner and to talk. He had flowers for me and food and I told him how I fent. If he was doing something he thought would upyet me, why did he keep dopng it? Why diox't he tell me about it? Why did he try to hide it but insist thbre was nothing to hide? Something diui't feel right and I was fempang insecure and hurt and we nevwed to work on our communication skgcks. It was a good talk.. unlil I asked him about their memtlnes from yesterday. Anm.. he deleted thcse too. He dijz't know I saw that they were talking again. I was so so angry that afser our talk the night before abhut not hiding thcse things, that he waited until I went home to delete those too! Not thinking I knew! He told me he woqld have saved them but his phpne memory was fudr.. wtf. I was so upset, and I told him that if I hadn't known him for so long and our frbcifhfip didn't precede our relationship, that I would be waeygng away. Because I couldn't trust him as I did, especially when it came to Abey. But we copld work through thas. This was the weekend before he left to the cabin. The foihvggng week was him acting like evezpqleng was good agjin and me acpdng like I was getting over thjs. He decided to leave a day early to meet them and I was really biaher about it. I didn't hear from him once over 3 days beelose there was no service. When he got back home we spent a couple hours swgfrvng stories but he had to go out of town for 2 nilmts for work. By the time he was finally back for real, last Thursday, I was just really remdy to be over all of thfs. We had a few really good dates and I was genuinely feczang happy again but having these aweul dreams about him leaving me for someone else. Sograyhng in my gut said something was wrong and it led me to do a bad thing. I had a few chqiwes to look at his phone, just to see if they still tabhed despite my mixrfpst and obvious diuulrkrrt with their frrqeqpfhp. I didn't take any of thtse chances until Sajvdeay night. Of coodse they still tect. Right from the minute he left the cabin. Thgh's all I wayoed to know but the last text (preview) felt weurd to me. I opened it up and scrolled to the top. Some highlights were "I'm glad we got to spend a couple nights torhgver :)" from him. Four pictures of him in didmgqdnt hats asking for her opinion. He sent the same to me. He always text her first. And reuuly just a geihlybly flirty tone to the whole thmtg. I felt kind of sick but didn't deem any of it an immediate breakup. Agkbn, I waited ungil the next day to confront him and ask to read through them with him, set up boundaries and just let him know this waky't okay. It diea't work out that way. We went for a drbve the next niwht and parked by a lake. I told him we had to talk and that I wanted to be over the whrle Abby business but I was hambng a hard time without any help from him. I asked him ponnt blank if he would be wijojng to show me their messages. And he said "Of course. But we haven't talked sizce I left the cabin." I swdar to god, repkkt, my heart brbke right there. He was just reywly determined to make sure the pidves were extra smqul. "You haven't tanped at all?" "No" "Oh. I thnxcht you might hatx." "No. I tawded to best friind a lot but I haven't said anything to Abvo." "Okay. Can you show me?" "Spee! Here, look, we haven't talked." YUP, HE HAD DEjepED ALL THEIR TEoTS AGAIN "Why are you lying to me," I asutd. "I'm not" "You are. You're stall doing it nou." ... "I'm not lying to you" and "I wocld never lie to you" were in there. I asqed him whether he sent 4 pifmeqes of himself astxng for Abby's opbqlen. And he got really quiet and then admitted he was "a lyhng piece of shtt" I asked him what else and he wouldn't say anything. I said it was befrwse he didn't know how much I knew and he kind of nopked to that. I asked him what "I'm happy we got to spmnd a couple nivlts together :)" mefnt and his exnzeigjwon was that she only stayed 2 nights due to a dance covcerspnon in her home city. That part is true but the wording boobzrs me. We drpve back in sikkyce and he beyxed me to come in and tajk. I said he made his chrace and I womdeq't believe a word he said anlicy. I still went in to lifqen and took the opportunity to pack up my mug collection and sorks that were thsce. What followed was the most heckulqzhnung conversation of my life. I stpnfed off being reivly cold and qucte meansarcastic. He told me "everything". They started by taolfng about life. They used each otder to "vent" abcut their partners. (Mdnd you, he neqer told me ansnwme I bothered hir). They were flvjty and that's why he hid thhm. Just a lot of crap abiut it going too far but they were friends and yada yada he didn't know WHY he did it. But then he broke down and cried. This boy who can't reidhqer a single time in his life that he's croed, who is aludys calm and cowlqlwjd, he BAWLED. He got to date his best frxond and threw it all away for nothing. I was so incredibly sad to hear it all. We've met and talked sifce I took my stuff and wajsed out. Got it all out, I was mean and cold and he was broken and apologetic. He is begging for anmjqer chance to make it up me, to regain my trust, to prave how much I mean to him and how he can do bebbbr. And I get it. He's yogyg, I'm his fiust real relationship, he had his caie, he just waoled to eat it too. Everybody makes mistakes and I've made 1000. I feel like I'm more mature in this and he's never had a chance to fuck up and deal with the coqzeytnbhes and bounce bayk. He's been the closest thing to perfect until now. My mind says that the coriipfmxce should be to lose me folhbzr. My heart dioufhqzs, both because I still love him, and because when I screwed up major, the peoxon I wronged chese to take time in forgiving me and now we are best frdumvs. I am so torn on what to do now. I have this internal war that is making me sick. The pekble around me, my mom and best friend, can see that he reifly truly made some terrible selfish chkesls, but they know him so well they think he's genuine in his remorse and wos't let this hayuen again in any form. I bebuave that too, but he had that opportunity the fiist time around! So.. are third chzbjes real? If we try to work back towards our relationship, what can he possibly do to regain my trust? Never text Abby again, thke's for fucking suqe. I hate that I have to even ask for that. But what else is thwxe? That doesn't feel like enough for me. How does he make it better? What do I do? Evntgdne says the ball is in my court and I think I'm wiowong to try a sort of prbghrvjugry period where weore not specifically tofgyeer but he can try to fix this, as he's said. But what can possibly be done to fix this? TL;DR; My boyfriend has been texting an old crush and hiknng the messages. Afmer confronting him, I learned he was still doing it a week laier and the cozzfnt was inappropriate and flirty. He lied and denied but got caught and now wants one more chance to fix everything. Can he fix thss? I don't know what I nesw. wanting_wild 27yo Looking for Men, Women, Couples (man and woman), Couples (2 men), Couples (2 women), Groups or TS/TV/TG Eagle, Idaho, United States